The Sacred Feminine and the Journey Back to Pleasure

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Welcome back to the Connected Pleasure podcast, my loves. I am Kayla, your host. I use she, her, hers pronouns. And I am back for another mini episode on now, day four of my open cart week.

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So I thought this episode I would do something slightly different.

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First, I know I've put a lot.

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Of information out there. I am also feeling like I'm moving. I'm moving through all the things and I'm excited to be here and it's been a lot.

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It's been a lot of information coming.

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Your way and a lot of information.

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That I've been outputting. So I invite you to close your eyes if you are able.

If you are not, then maybe press pause and wait until you have a moment where you can center yourself a little bit. When you are able, I invite you to close your eyes, place your feet flat on the floor.

Or if you are standing, you can put one hand over your heart, one hand over your tummy, and just take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth. And you can sigh and you can think about roots growing. If you're standing, you can think about them growing down through your root chakra.

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Or your sacrum area, through your legs, through your feet, all the way into the earth.

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If you are sitting, you can think of them coming down out of your sits bones, down through the floor or through, you know, other stories of your.

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House or whatever building you are in, all the way into the ground, into.

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The soil, and intertwining with the mycelial network that is in the ground. Knowing that this is where we all came from, this is where we all eventually return.

And knowing that Mother Earth is always under our feet, she's always there to catch us when we fall.

She's always holding us to her with her gravitational pull, taking another deep breath in and out and just knowing that all this information I know is a lot to take in and a lot of our nervous systems are not safe around sex, intimacy, pleasure.

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So I want to invite you, as.

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You think about what it means to pursue pleasure in your life. How do we come home to our bodies? How do we resource our safety? Coming back to a feeling of calm, of love, of reverence, of joy within yourself.

Taking one more deep breath and again I'm going to invite you to think about for yourself. What would I love? What would I love? And if the answer is pleasure, then.

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I want you to think about what.

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Would that feel like in my body? What would pleasure in the way that I want it feel like in my body? Does it feel tense in my body or does it feel expansive?

Is there maybe a part of me that really wants it and another part of me that's very resistant and hesitant? Just noticing those parts of yourself, noticing when you think about pleasure, how your body responds to that and then think.

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For yourself, is that a response that.

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I want with pleasure? And if not, am I open to working on that for myself?

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Am I open to a journey that.

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Could create safety and love and grounding around pleasure in my body? So I invite you to take one more deep breath. In through your nose, out through your mouth.

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You can sigh, you can make whatever noise feels good to you.

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And when you are ready, you may open your eyes.

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So that was a little bit of a taste of something that we can and would do in my coaching container.

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As well is grounding yourself in your.

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Body and really listening to what is happening in my body.

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When I start to think and move.

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Through a lot of these emotions or narratives or stories that I have had.

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For so long, I know my work.

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Is not easy for people to say yes to because we have been conditioned for so long to say no.

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And yet I invite you to be.

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Curious of when your body is starting to say no. But there's a part of you that wants to say yes.

And so something that I think is important to also just touch on is that I know I've gone through a lot of iterations of who I am, what I do, and I haven't really talked a whole lot about the intersection of sacred feminine work and my a whole background in sexuality.

I came into sacred feminine work by listening to a podcast actually in a very kind of serendipitous moment of getting a in person office that I had been dreaming of for a long time and I finally found one and was loving it.

And it was my first day in it and I was putting together furniture for my office and I was listening to a podcast from one of the coaches that I follow and she interviewed woman named Sarah Jenks, who is now who's a priestess that is in Massachusetts and she has a online group that now is turning into a temple.

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She's calling it the Living Temple.

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And that was really my first like introduction into the sacred feminine. I've always been a little bit woo woo or woo woo curious I think.

But that was the first time that I had heard somebody once say that they were a priestess.

I had never even heard of that before in my life and talk about what it meant to like be in ceremony and talk about what it meant to cultivate a spiritual relationship. That was not necessarily tied to a religion. And that was very intriguing to me.

And so as I've gone through that journey, that was like, a year and a half ago now, and as I have gone through this journey of learning more and more about Sacred Feminine work. And Sacred Feminine is really just.

Oh, it's a lot of different things, but it is looking at the archetypes of femininity and masculinity, not in line with what we think of them as gender roles in our society, but really, like, what the energy essence of them is and bringing that into alignment in ourselves. And, you know, there's lots of different belief systems.

I won't get into all of that today, but knowing that, like, in more organized religions that typically are headed by males, your connection to the divine runs through usually a male, to God or to whatever godlike entity. And sacred feminine is more like reversing that. It's saying, we all are divine within ourselves.

We all have access to the divine because we inherently are divine in ourselves. And as a mother, I fully feel that I. I mean, it is incredible to create a human from scratch in your body and birth them into this world.

Like, that whole process, even though it happens every day, is just insane to me still.

And so I fully am, like, it is a miracle that any of us are even here on this planet, and that you were, like, created in a womb and birthed through a womb. So that alone is divine, in my opinion.

I believe through this spirituality that we all have souls that chose to be here for a reason that, you know, I don't know this. Like, it's not.

I haven't, like, read it in a book, but I definitely feel like our souls are called to be alive at certain times and that we all have a purpose. And I firmly believe that, like, I was called to live at this time because I have a purpose.

And so there's a lot of different ways of, like, connecting internally with yourself and with your soul, and that connects you to the divine. And the divine is anything you really want it to be.

I mean, some people, the community I'm a part of, and Sarah Jenks, the priestess, she is, like, in a lineage that looks at Christianity in a different way and, like, weaves sacred feminine back into Christianity.

And there's actually texts that, I mean, very much show, like, the erasure of sacred feminine in times where there was, like, Constantine and there was conquering happening and patriarchy was on the rise. And I won't get into all the details in this episode.

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You can go back to the her.

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On top episodes, if you want to know more about that. But essentially, like, the sacred feminine was erased because patriarchy cannot.

Cannot take hold when there is magic available to people, when people are able to source within themselves and connect to the divine in themselves and connect to their own power. Like, they are not able to be controlled in the same way. And so all of that was erased so that people could be controlled.

People could be put into the society that patriarchy wanted. And so I'm very passionate about this because I. I'm wielding a lot of different things.

I'm wielding my love for the taboo, the wanting equality and justice for all people here in our world.

And that inevitably comes with looking at the most marginalized people and the things that have been taken away from us again, as tools to use against us. And one of those is sexuality.

And so I believe, especially for women, like, weaving in sacred feminine practices is so helpful in being able to root yourself in yourself to get a better relationship to who you are and what you want and to connect to your sacred being inside of yourself.

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Again, we all came through a womb.

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And there's no, in my mind, there is no greater sacred, sacred creation than a. A human child in a womb. And that does not mean that, you know, you are not partaking in that if you have not had a child grow in your womb.

And I fully believe that no matter who you are, like, we can all tap into that energy because we all came from a womb. But having been somebody that did grow someone in my womb, I. There's, like, no greater power to that. It's just insane.

And there's so many facets that I could go into the. Into about that, but I just. We are divine beings that have so much power, so much resource that we don't even know.

And a lot of that is, you know, there's more that is coming online as we, like, enter into this new earth and new human. I can, again, talk more about that in a different episode too. But I just.

I want people to understand that, like, the reason why I weave in sacred feminine into what in my, like, therapeutic background has been traditionally a lot more clinical is because spirituality really marries the. Yeah, like the practical with. With the magic of who we are as human beings.

And I think I would do a disservice to people if I didn't bring some type of element of spirituality into. Into the act of pleasure. Like, pleasure also lives in this place of rest and creation.

And there's just so many through threads of what it looks like to like to tap into who you are in your inner self, to resource safety and love and appreciation and power in yourself, to access your pleasure and the Sacred Feminine and all that it stands for and what we can learn from that. So I know that that's kind of vague. I don't want to give too much because this would be a very long episode if I went into all the details.

I do have a lot of, again, Sacred Feminine episodes in my her on Top solo season.

So if you want to go listen to any of those episodes, it talks a lot more about the Sacred Feminine and weaving that with reclaiming your own pleasure and experiencing sex and intimacy the way that you want.

But I want you to feel like you understand why I am who I am and how I will be holding you in this container with both my very, like, clinical knowledge around sex and intimacy, as well as my growing knowledge of the Sacred Feminine and the practices that allow us to again, turn inward to ourselves and really connect to our own power and our own energy sources and find reverence and love for our bodies and what we can do because of those belief systems. And I will add just a tidbit. I talked about this in my episode with Camille A. Saunders, so you can go listen to that too.

But I. I just wanted to address that originally I, you know, was putting out there that I'm a certified sex therapist and a coach, which are both absolutely true. I've been a licensed therapist for eight years. I am now a certified sex the therapist. I've been doing sex therapy work for five and a half years.

That's like my, you know, bio of what my actual training is. And I'm moving now into a more coaching realm.

I this year decided to, like, really start to separate myself from therapy and move more into a coaching space. But even coach doesn't quite fit feel right for me.

So if you've been seeing this, like, sacred disruptor and sovereign guide description of me and are like, what? What is that all about? I do feel like my full calling in the distance is for me to be a priestess.

And again, I could talk more about what that is in a later episode.

But I do feel like this more sacred spiritual path is really an integral part of what I want to do in the future, but so is weaving pleasure back into the world and back into people's lives. So I'm trying to kind of intertwine both. And I very much believe that I am somebody that is here for a reason.

I'm here to be a guide to women, to humanity. But Especially to women that are starting to rise, that are starting to remember their power.

They're starting to want to reclaim their pleasure, come home to their bodies.

Like, I am a guide to help this journey for women that are rising, that are waking up from the patriarchal slumber that we've been in and are wanting to fight back and say, this is not the world that we want to live in, and we want to bring it into a place of more equity and inclusion and harmony and love and joy and pleasure for all. So I fully believe that I'm a guide for that, because these women are rising, and I. I'm one of them.

We are rising together and collectively, we are going to be warriors to bring that new reality, that new Earth, into existence. And so I very much feel like that's who I am. And I call myself a sacred disruptor, because that's what I feel like I am. Like I'm. I'm here disrupting.

I am not afraid to say the hard things because I fully, fully believe in it. I fully believe that we need to dismantle a lot in what we now are used to in this society.

And it's not about, you know, one side or the other in the political realm. You know, I definitely fall hard on one side, but I know that so many people on all sides are. We are all really upset about the same things.

We are just being told to be upset. You know, some of us are like, we're really upset about these things, but this is how we are going to go about it.

And other people are like, we're really upset about these things, but this is how we're going to go about it. And I always stand for justice and inclusion. I do not stand for hate.

And, you know, saying that some people get rights and other people don't, that's not how I think that we should govern. But I do know that no matter who you are on the political, in the political spectrum, we have all suffered.

We have all suffered under patriarchy and a system that only works for the top few and does not work for the rest of us. And so I'm disrupting that.

I am here to disrupt that and to poke holes in that and to say, these are all the things that I've studied for years and years and years that I know about our system and how it works and how it's not working for anyone.

And so this is my way of trying to create a better world, is through helping people weave pleasure back into their own lives and also showing people that are already Helping people weave pleasure back into their lives and are already like holding the frequency of what a better future could be. So that's why I call my sacred myself a sacred disruptor and a sovereign guide. Because I feel like I am here to be that sovereign God.

I'm here to be like the warrior mother that is here to carry us all into this space together and to love on you and to hold you and to be there with you as you grow in yourself and go through this journey for yourself. Hopefully that if you had any questions around like who is this woo woo person that is trying to get me to integrate pleasure into my life?

I mean if you're listening to this podcast, I would imagine that you know you have some lewinness already in you. But I just wanted to address like who I am, why I'm doing this and a little bit more of like the sacred feminine in this work.

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I believe that's all that I need to tell you.

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I am just so honored for everyone that is here. I know this is a lot to listen to. It's a lot for me to be putting out there as well.

But I really appreciate everyone who is here listening consistently. And I am just very grateful for this journey that I'm on with all of you. So I will talk to you in the next one.