Weaving a World of Pleasure
The Connected Pleasure Podcast, hosted by Kayla Moore, embarks on a profound exploration of the significance of pleasure as a fundamental aspect of human existence. Within the first segment, Moore articulates her journey as a certified sex therapist and coach, emphasizing the need to reconnect with our authentic selves through pleasure and embodiment. She introduces the concept of ‘soft power,’ which advocates for leading with compassion and connection rather than dominance and control. The podcast serves as a platform for discussing the vital importance of pleasure in reshaping societal structures, fostering community, and nurturing individual well-being. Moore posits that the contemporary world, fraught with patriarchy and capitalism, has systematically stripped individuals of their ability to experience joy and connection, thereby necessitating a collective movement towards the ‘Great Turning.’ This paradigm shift calls for the reclamation of pleasure as a transformative force, capable of instigating profound societal change and personal healing.
In her candid narration, Kayla Moore delineates her personal evolution and the impetus for the podcast's rebranding from ‘Her on Top’ to ‘Connected Pleasure.’ This transition symbolizes a deeper commitment to exploring how pleasure intersects with various aspects of life, including activism, community, and personal healing. Moore reflects on her experiences during the hiatus, revealing the transformative journey she undertook, culminating in the establishment of Connected Pleasure Coaching. This coaching initiative underscores a pivotal shift towards more intentional and focused therapeutic practices that prioritize rapid and profound transformation. Through the podcast, Moore aspires to weave together diverse narratives that illustrate how pleasure can be reintegrated into daily life and collective consciousness, thereby advocating for a world where pleasure is not a luxury but a necessity.
The podcast also delves into the intricate relationship between pleasure, justice, and activism, as Moore articulates her vision of a society grounded in interconnectedness and community support. She advocates for a reevaluation of the societal norms that dictate productivity and success, urging listeners to embrace a more holistic and pleasure-centered approach to life. As she invites a variety of guests from diverse backgrounds to share their insights, the podcast aims to illuminate the myriad ways in which pleasure can be woven back into the fabric of society. Moore’s commitment to fostering a dialogue around these themes is evident as she emphasizes the urgency of reimagining work, life, and legacy through the lens of pleasure, ultimately positing that the collective rise of the feminine energy will herald a new era of empowerment and connection. This exploration serves not only as a call to action but also as a reminder that pleasure is intrinsically linked to our humanity, deserving of acknowledgment and celebration.
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Welcome to the Connected Pleasure Podcast with me, Kayla Moore, certified sex therapist and coach, healer, weaver, dreamer, sacred disruptor of the patriarchy and guide for the Women Warriors Rising.
Speaker A:This is a space to return to your pleasure, your power and your body, while remembering your deep connection to the earth and to each other.
Speaker A:Each week we explore what it means to lead with soft power power and to weave a world rooted in embodiment, love and connection.
Speaker A:Together, we are holding the frequency of what we want this world to look and feel like as we collectively weave together a new paradigm shift called the Great Turning.
Speaker A:Because pleasure is not frivolous, it is foundational and it's time to come home.
Speaker A:This podcast is for education and inspiration only.
Speaker A:If you're wanting to explore pleasure more fully for yourself, I invite you to go deeper with me through the offerings linked in the show notes or through the offerings of my guests.
Speaker A:If you're unsure whether one of these containers or a therapeutic approach would best support you, you're welcome to schedule a free 45 minute consultation with me.
Speaker A:Together we can explore what path is in your best interest and if I am not the right fit, I'll be glad to connect you with the resources you need.
Speaker A:Hello my loves.
Speaker A:Welcome back to this podcast that is actually no longer the her on Top podcast.
Speaker A:It is now the Connected Pleasure Podcast.
Speaker A:For those of you that don't know me, I'm your host, Kayla Moore.
Speaker A:I am a certified sex therapist and coach and I am also a weaver, a dreamer, a healer, a musician, and a sacred disruptor of the patriarchy.
Speaker A:I am also a guide or a sovereign mother to the women who are rising in their collective knowing, remembrance and understanding of who they are in this present moment as well as who we have been and where we are wanting to go.
Speaker A:I am so excited to be back with you.
Speaker A:I know it has been a really long time.
Speaker A:I started her on top with a friend of mine.
Speaker A: ieve we started at the end of: Speaker A:I did her on top all last year up until the holidays and I took a break for the holidays in December.
Speaker A:I was feeling really burnt out.
Speaker A:Felt like the podcast was a little bit too much for me to have on my plate at that moment.
Speaker A:So I took a break.
Speaker A:At the time when I made that decision.
Speaker A:I fully intended to come back in January of this year and do another season.
Speaker A:And then I was just in a place of the podcast wasn't really something again that I felt like I could manage in my schedule.
Speaker A:Things were shifting and changing the world was on the precipice of really shifting and changing, and it just wasn't in line with what I was trying to do at that moment.
Speaker A:I've done a lot since then.
Speaker A:It doesn't seem like it's been that long.
Speaker A:You know, it's been like six, seven months, I guess, almost eight months now.
Speaker A:And I have really grown into a new person.
Speaker A:I've grown into.
Speaker A:I guess maybe not a new person, but I've grown into the person that I have been really wanting to become.
Speaker A:And with that, I started a coaching business alongside of my therapy business called Connected Pleasure Coaching.
Speaker A:And I really honed in on the way of working with people that I want to center my focus on right now.
Speaker A:I really have enjoyed all of what I have done in therapy, and currently I'm still seeing some therapy clients.
Speaker A:So I haven't completely closed the door on therapy yet.
Speaker A:And I finally, finally got my actual, like, certificate certification in sex therapy.
Speaker A:So that was a big achievement of mine this year.
Speaker A:But coaching in the coaching realm allows me to be a little bit more free, allows me to be a little bit more able to create in the way that I want to create and work with the people in a way that I think is better for them, it's better for me, and it gives everybody a little bit more.
Speaker A:I feel like, intentionality around what we do therapy sometimes can be.
Speaker A:It's a beautiful container that weaves a lot of different things into it.
Speaker A:And I feel like with coaching, all of that can still be true, but I can be a lot more intentional with the containers and the spaces that I am creating for people and making sure that instead of taking, you know, months and months, sometimes years, to go through a specific type of transformation that somebody is trying to achieve, that we can go really deep pretty quickly and really get to the, like, heart and embodiment of something because we're being so intentional about it.
Speaker A:So that is what I've been cultivating.
Speaker A:And this podcast kind of.
Speaker A:I.
Speaker A:It's a.
Speaker A:It's funny because I had been told by my business coach I should revive this podcast and, you know, name it Connected Pleasure.
Speaker A:And at the time I was creating my coaching business, I was creating my offers, and I was just like, that is way too much.
Speaker A:I cannot do that.
Speaker A:And now that all of those things have kind of, you know, been created, are settled, and now I'm just in the phase of putting them out into the world and seeing who they resonate.
Speaker A:Resonate with.
Speaker A:The podcast seemed like the perfect medium to help these Ideas that I have, this love that I have with, for connecting with people, wanting to bridge all these different passions that I have together.
Speaker A:It just became something that I felt like was right.
Speaker A:So this is the Connected Pleasure podcast.
Speaker A:It is no longer the her on Top podcast.
Speaker A:I know this is like the third iteration of this podcast, but I think this is where we're here to stay.
Speaker A:And this season I'm kind of playing around with this.
Speaker A:So it may be just a season and it may be the whole entirety of the podcast.
Speaker A:I'll see of kind of again where this leads me.
Speaker A:But right now, this season that I am doing is called Weaving a World of Pleasure.
Speaker A:So I mentioned that there are a lot of different things that I have a passion for, and that has been something that I've struggled with this year is trying to find a way to weave all of these passions that I have together in something that feels coherent and makes sense.
Speaker A:And one of the passions that I have is pleasure and bringing pleasure back into people's lives, people's bodies, and back into the world.
Speaker A:And, you know, I have studied to be a certified sex therapist for like eight years now, and I don't think it was until this year that I really started to understand the power of pleasure.
Speaker A:I know it sounds interesting because I was studying this and I had a passion for talking about sex, but in how I was taught about sex and in a clinical setting, it was just that it was a lot more clinical, it was a lot more science based.
Speaker A:And I think this year I have been able to bring that knowledge that I have and pair it with a more spiritual nature that I have also been delving into in my sacred Feminine practices.
Speaker A:If you listen to the last season of her on Top, you will hear a lot of the Sacred Feminine coming into the work that I was doing and am currently doing as well.
Speaker A:And I think pairing all the like, data and scientific parts of my training with more sacred spiritual practices has really led me to seeing the power that pleasure can really have and how it can reshape who we are and it can reshape our world.
Speaker A:And one of the other loves of my life that I have right now that I think I will always have is justice and activism and hope.
Speaker A:Oh, is this the time that we need justice and activism?
Speaker A:I have always wanted to be an activist and I always knew, though, that, you know, I wasn't probably going to be somebody that got a job in activism.
Speaker A:And that was all that I did because there were other callings that I had that I wanted to Pursue as well.
Speaker A:So I've been trying to figure out how do I pair activism with all the other things that I'm doing.
Speaker A:And, you know, I've been out there protesting at all of our local protests this year.
Speaker A:I've been very vocal on my Instagram.
Speaker A:I repost a lot of political stuff on my Instagram.
Speaker A:You know, nobody's ever asked me, like, why do you do that?
Speaker A:Or, you know, why is this so important to you?
Speaker A:But in terms of, like, marketing strategy and staying on topic to who I am and what I'm trying to, you know, put out into the world is not necessarily the most helpful thing in building a brand.
Speaker A:You know, talking about and not necessarily, like, because politics is controversial.
Speaker A:It more is just like, you know, I'm not staying on topic and I'm not staying on the brand of what I'm doing, but it's important to me and I will tell you why.
Speaker A:So as a therapist and as a systems therapist, which means that I have been trained to see the world as not any particular thing that just exists in a vacuum.
Speaker A:And we just look at one singular thing and don't look at all the other aspects of life that are impacting it.
Speaker A:I have been taught to address all the other aspects of life that are impacting it.
Speaker A:Everything is interconnected.
Speaker A:Everything.
Speaker A:Just like.
Speaker A:I love the word Weaver, just like the word Weaver, everything is woven together.
Speaker A:And anything that is, you know, impacted over here is going to have ripple effects and be felt in some way or seen in some way over here as well.
Speaker A:And increasingly.
Speaker A:And I have felt that.
Speaker A:Felt, excuse me.
Speaker A:I've felt this for a long time in therapy that so many of my clients are coming to me with issues that are really more part of our collective societal issue than it is about them.
Speaker A:It's usually never necessarily about them.
Speaker A:Of course, like, individuals bring their own traumas, bring their own way of processing the world, and we deal with that on, like, the.
Speaker A:In the very, like, tangible realm of what we are looking at in the therapy space and kind of, you know, on the minor scale.
Speaker A:But when I look at everything that most of the clients that I am working with are going through, like, relationship issues and the roles that they play in their relationship and the expectations that are put on them and the barriers that they have to pleasure, which a lot of the time are like, working 50, 60 hours a week or being parents and not having any help and really having to, like, work and cook and clean and parent and take kids to and from school and their activities and schedule doctor's appointments.
Speaker A:And like, all of that, they're doing it all by themselves.
Speaker A:And sometimes it's one parent that is doing most of that work all by themselves.
Speaker A:And that is not how we were supposed to be.
Speaker A:That was not how humanity was supposed to be able to, like, care for children.
Speaker A:We were supposed to do it in a collective.
Speaker A:We were supposed to do it in a community, because it does take a village.
Speaker A:And most of us have been so deprived and divorced of villages because they were basically torn away from us and then created as a commodity that we then have to buy.
Speaker A:And so, so many of the barriers that I see to people having pleasure in their lives are always like, I'm too busy, I'm too tired.
Speaker A:I can't do it because I don't have time.
Speaker A:Like, all of this is created by our society.
Speaker A:All of this is created by human beings.
Speaker A:And it doesn't have to be this way.
Speaker A:It really, really doesn't.
Speaker A:And bringing the spiritual spirituality and the feminine into this understanding, it really helped me see that there was a world before we brought patriarchy and capitalism into it.
Speaker A:And you don't even have to go, you know, in back in time to see a difference.
Speaker A:There are so many other countries that do this differently.
Speaker A:There's so many other countries.
Speaker A:I have a friend, actually, right now that I want to have on this podcast, and she is from Brazil.
Speaker A:And we were having a conversation about how in Brazil, they do work, but work is not their life, and their value is not wrapped up around what they do, as in their job and how productive they could be.
Speaker A:And she was talking to me about how in America, everything is, like, turned up to a thousand on how we have to do something in such, like, a rigid way.
Speaker A:She was talking about how she went to a pool.
Speaker A:I hope she's okay with me telling this story how she went to a pool and, like, an indoor swimming pool, and she wanted to just, like, float around and, you know, just hang out, have some fun, relax a little bit.
Speaker A:And she noticed that everybody else that was getting into the pool was, like, doing laps.
Speaker A:And we're so about, you know, having these watches on our wrists.
Speaker A:I have declined the smartwatches for this specific reason.
Speaker A:Cause I phone is already bad enough.
Speaker A:I'm already addicted to my phone.
Speaker A:I don't need something on my body constantly that is tracking me and telling me to do things at all times.
Speaker A:Sorry, that's a side tangent.
Speaker A:Essentially, she was saying, like, people are so about doing everything to the nth degree.
Speaker A:Like, I have to do laps in the Pool.
Speaker A:So many amount of times she we talked about, you know, like, yeah, when you go hiking, it's not about really taking your time, smelling the trees, talking to the trees.
Speaker A:I know that's very sacred, feminine, woo woo of me.
Speaker A:But if you're here, you're gonna have to lean into that because that's what this podcast is gonna talk about.
Speaker A:And, you know, just enjoy enjoying the process, enjoying the journey up the mountain.
Speaker A:A lot of people just feel like, okay, how fast can I get up this mountain?
Speaker A:How many steps can I get out of this hike?
Speaker A:You know, what's my time?
Speaker A:How, you know, let's set the timer and see how fast I can get up, how many calories I can burn, you know, like just whatever.
Speaker A:It's just like there's always an end goal.
Speaker A:There's always like a certain amount of like, competition.
Speaker A:You've either with yourself or with someone else in terms of how you do something.
Speaker A:And business and work life is so wrapped up in that.
Speaker A:It's all about productivity.
Speaker A:It's all about how much we can produce, how much we can.
Speaker A:And I'm going to say produce, I'm not going to say create because I think there is not a lot of creation happening.
Speaker A:It's more about production and just turning things out.
Speaker A:It's not actually about creation.
Speaker A:I think those two things are different.
Speaker A:So a lot of what I want this podcast to be is bringing us back to a place of seeing that everything is interconnected, everything is part of a whole, that we have one whole planet with one whole ecosystem that we are a part of.
Speaker A:We are not separate from that.
Speaker A:And if we can remember that and remember the pleasure that naturally comes out of creation, naturally comes out of connection and how powerful that pleasure can be for all of us, I think we could change the world.
Speaker A:I really think we could change the world.
Speaker A:So this podcast is going to be a series of conversations reimagining work, life and legacy through the lens of pleasure.
Speaker A:And so I'm going to have a bunch of different guests on that I'm going to interview.
Speaker A:And these are going to be people from all different sectors of society.
Speaker A:I really want this to be like all the people that you would never think that you would hear about that I want to bring into the forefront to talk about how we are weaving pleasure back into our world.
Speaker A:And the great thing is that there are so many people already doing it, they're already doing the work.
Speaker A:It's not like we have to create something new or find people that have new ideas that we then have to implement for the very first time, there are so many people already weaving pleasure back into this world.
Speaker A:This rise of the feminine has been happening for a while.
Speaker A:And just as we are at the falling of patriarchy and the falling of capitalism, we are at the birth of something completely new and old.
Speaker A:In a way, we're bringing back the feminine that was lost so many years ago, thousands of years ago, and.
Speaker A:But we're creating it in a new world with new technology and new things that have never been here before as well.
Speaker A:And for most of us, well, I would say for all the people on this planet today, this is a totally new paradigm that none of us have experienced in our lifetimes.
Speaker A:So there are blueprints from our lineage and our history, but we are the ones that are creating that with the resources and the things that we have now.
Speaker A:So bringing it again into justice and activism.
Speaker A:It is no surprise or no secret that we are living through an extremely hard time.
Speaker A:And this is something interesting, too, that I, you know, have been listening to all of these gurus and these people talking about where we are in this time, and I just started to realize, like, I could do that.
Speaker A:I could be a person that is talking about how I am distilling this information and making sense of it for myself.
Speaker A:So one person that I want to really highlight to you is this fantastic woman.
Speaker A:And I.
Speaker A:She has just been brought into my orbit, so I don't know everything about her, but her name was.
Speaker A:She just recently passed away, Joanna Macy.
Speaker A:And she was a, like, lifetime climate activist.
Speaker A:But she.
Speaker A:I mean, she was just like an oracle that had so many years of lived experience that she could just see very clearly, like, this is what is happening and this is what.
Speaker A:This is what the turning of the world is looking like right now.
Speaker A:And a podcast that I have no affiliation to, but I'm going to plug.
Speaker A:I want you to still come back and listen to this one.
Speaker A:But something that I think would be really helpful in grounding this idea for a lot of people is going and look or going and listening to the podcast.
Speaker A:We are the Great Turning.
Speaker A:And this podcast talks about how we connect back to our world and know that this moment in time is called the Great Turning, that we have lived in a capitalist, patriarchal society that just takes.
Speaker A:It just takes and takes and takes and disempowers and disenfranchises and puts some people at the top and most everybody else at the bott.
Speaker A:And it has taken so much from our world.
Speaker A:It has stripped the beauty, the sacredness the love, the connection, the pleasure from our connection to the world and from ourselves, from each other.
Speaker A:It is just taken, taken, taken, taken.
Speaker A:And we are part of a new world, a new paradigm shift called the Great Turning.
Speaker A:And this is when, again, the feminine and feminine is an energy.
Speaker A:It is not how we think of, like, men and women and like a female archetype, necessarily.
Speaker A:Like, in a patriarchal society, women are seen as one specific type of person, right?
Speaker A:The feminine is feminine energy.
Speaker A:And we have feminine energy in all of us.
Speaker A:We are created from an egg and from a sperm.
Speaker A:So we are here weaving back the feminine into ourselves, into our relationships, into society as a whole.
Speaker A:And the feminine, it really looks at.
Speaker A:How do we have more space, more softness, how do we do more.
Speaker A:With less energy, less output, less stress?
Speaker A:How do we bring pleasure back into what we're doing?
Speaker A:How can joy be a way for us to alchemize the pain and the suffering that we have all felt, the trauma that we have all felt, into something that is powerful and creative and that helps us move forward collectively, together?
Speaker A:The feminine is community.
Speaker A:The feminine is bringing back a sacred relationship between humans and the earth and all the other species that inhabit the earth, the animals, the plants, the insects, the.
Speaker A:The marine life in the ocean.
Speaker A:All.
Speaker A:All of creation that has been on this planet.
Speaker A:We are all one in the same together.
Speaker A:And so bringing back a sacred spiritual relationship between us as humans and all of creation is so important.
Speaker A:And so that is what I want to tackle on this podcast.
Speaker A:And it's going to bring in some of my knowledge and understanding of sex and intimacy and how we weave that into our personal lives, as well as what it means to bring pleasure into things like farming and into business and into motherhood and into our healing journeys and how this can be a blueprint for what we want after this crumbling has, I guess, essentially ended.
Speaker A:I'm not really sure if there's like an end point.
Speaker A:I guess there would be an end point to the crumbling, but I think they're kind of happening simultaneously right now where something new is coming into focus while there is this great crumbling or shedding happening.
Speaker A:And my personal belief is that we are living in a time where this is kind of like the catalyst moment.
Speaker A:We are in kind of the great fall of the empire.
Speaker A:And I do think that this year and maybe into next year, we're kind of like.
Speaker A:We're like in that moment, we're in.
Speaker A:In the belly of the beast.
Speaker A:We're in the fire.
Speaker A:It's happening right here, right now.
Speaker A:I Do think that there will be like some type of relief at some point?
Speaker A:Because somebody that I follow recently said that we're like in 20 years span of the fire right now.
Speaker A:And I'm just like, our nervous systems could not handle this amount of pressure and just like stress and strain on our bodies and our nervous system.
Speaker A:We're in such like.
Speaker A:I really feel like we are in a squeeze.
Speaker A:If you kind of want to use a birth analogy.
Speaker A:Like, we're in the birth canal.
Speaker A:Like, we are being squeezed into being born into a new reality.
Speaker A:And we just like babies that are being birthed.
Speaker A:Like, we can't be squeezed for 20 years, in my opinion.
Speaker A:I think humanity would die, unfortunately, if we had to, like, live in this state of uncertainty and fear and trauma and just like things going to shit day after day after day.
Speaker A:I don't think that we could survive for 20 years on that.
Speaker A:I could completely be wrong.
Speaker A:But my sense is we are in the baptism right now.
Speaker A:We are like being baptized by fire.
Speaker A:But the collective is rising.
Speaker A:The collective is rising and we are going to end this.
Speaker A:We are going to say no to fascism.
Speaker A:We are going to say this is not the world that we want to live in.
Speaker A:And I don't.
Speaker A:Again, I don't know how long it'll take to completely get everything said and done to the point where we can just focus on building anew.
Speaker A:But even the building a new world is not going to be easy.
Speaker A:There's still going to be a lot of people that wanted to hold on to the old structures and the old systems.
Speaker A:And there's going to have to be a lot of negotiation and a lot of fight for the things that we want in the new world.
Speaker A:There's still going to be a lot of billionaires wanting to hold on to their money.
Speaker A:There's still going to be a lot of corrupt people that, you know, want to build those old systems again instead of building something new that is more fair and free for all.
Speaker A:And so I do think that there's still gonna be a fight for what we want collectively moving forward.
Speaker A:However, I'm hoping that that comes with a.
Speaker A:Like, it comes in a container that is less strained.
Speaker A:It comes in a container.
Speaker A:I don't necessarily wanna say leadership, but hopefully also leadership that is obviously more willing and obliged to opening up new doors, new windows, new anything to create something that is not going to take us back to where we are today.
Speaker A:So that is my hope.
Speaker A:My hope is that we are living in a time that is really the hardest part of this whole experience and once the fall has taken place that we are going to then be building.
Speaker A:We are going to get into the building phase of what is new and how do we collectively work to effectively change where we are going with this world and create this paradigm shift of pleasure over control, pleasure over power, pleasure over.
Speaker A:I mean, pleasure over billionaires, pleasure over authoritarianism, pleasure over fascism, pleasure over genocide, and pleasure in ourselves.
Speaker A:Pleasure as a way into collectively holding ourselves as sovereign beings and divine beings that are worthy of all the things that we want in this world.
Speaker A:We are worthy of love.
Speaker A:We are worthy of connection.
Speaker A:We are worthy of resources.
Speaker A:This is also about abundance of resources and making sure that everybody has their needs taken care of and that we have time to be human beings to do the things that we need and want for ourselves.
Speaker A:So that is what this podcast is about.
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Speaker A:Sa.
