You Deserve More Than “It’s Fine”
Many women have been taught to settle for “fine.”
Fine relationships. Fine sex. Fine intimacy.
But what if fine is actually a form of self-abandonment?
In today’s episode of the Connected Pleasure Podcast, I explore one of the most common barriers to healing our relationship with sex and intimacy — the belief that pleasure isn’t important, or that life can go on just fine without it.
You’ll be invited to question what “fine” has cost you, and to imagine what might open if you gave yourself permission to want more — not more to do, but more to feel.
This is about coming home to your body’s natural aliveness, desire, and connection to the sacred — not as a luxury, but as your birthright.
In this episode, I share:
- Why so many women dismiss pleasure as “not a priority”
- The difference between being asexual and feeling disconnected from desire
- How reclaiming your erotic energy transforms every part of your life
- The sacred invitation to explore what you would love — without shame
- Why healing your relationship with pleasure creates ripples across generations
What’s Included in My 1:1 Coaching Container
There are two ways to work with me during open cart week:
🌸 Core Coaching Package — $2,999
- 8 total sessions over 3 months (6 teaching + 2 integration)
- Deep guided support through sexual healing, embodiment, and pleasure reclamation
- Personalized practices and between-session support tools
- Payment plan: 4 monthly payments of $750
- BONUS: Your choice of either an extra integration session or a personalized closing ritual session to anchor your transformation (either individually or potentially as a group)
🔥 VIP Coaching Package — $4,999
- Everything in the Core Package plus:
- Text and voice note support via Telegram between sessions for continued guidance
- Payment plan: 4 monthly payments of $1,250
- BONUS: Your choice of either an extra integration session, a personalized closing ritual session to anchor your transformation (either individually or potentially as a group), or another week of text + voice support
🌕 Bonuses + Early Bird Special
✨ Early Bird Discount:
If one of the two early bird spots is still available, you’ll receive $500 off either package when you pay in full.
✨ Included for All Participants:
- Your choice of either an extra integration session or a personalized closing ritual session to anchor your transformation
- Optional group closing circle if this cohort desires to come together in sacred space at the end
✨ Pay-in-Full Bonuses:
- A personalized sacred feminine playlist, curated by me to help you embody sensuality and self-love in your daily life
- 15% off add-ons, including:
- The Ongoing Support Package (2 sessions per month, $750)
- The Partner Support Container (4 sessions, $1,499)
🌸 Click below to purchase your package or schedule your free 45-minute consultation call:
👉 Core Coaching Package Early Bird Special
👉 VIP Coaching Package Early Bird Special
👉 Core Coaching Package 4 Month Payment Plan Option
👉 VIP Coaching Package 4 Month Payment Plan Option
If you’re craving personalized support before saying yes, I’m also offering free 45-minute consultations this week — Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday only — so you can feel into whether this container is right for you.
🌕 Schedule Your Optional FREE 45 min Consultation Call Here (Available Oct. 7-9th)
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Transcript
Welcome back to the Connect to Pleasure podcast, my loves.
Speaker A:This is Kayla, your host.
Speaker A:I go by she, her hers, pronouns.
Speaker A:And this is another mini episode on day three of my open cart week.
Speaker A:I wanted to remind you that the open cart week ends on Sunday, the 12th at midnight.
Speaker A:So this is just a week started on the 6th and ends on the 12th at midnight.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:And that means like, midnight Sunday night.
Speaker A:So like Monday morning and so, yes.
Speaker A:So your time is limited, but I'm making these episodes to.
Speaker A:To again help you make the best decision that you possibly can make in this time that you have to make your decision.
Speaker A:So what I want to touch on in this episode is the fact that a lot of people I work with, again, especially women, feel like sex and intimacy and pleasure is not necessarily something that is important for them to look, work on.
Speaker A:You may think this situation isn't really that bad.
Speaker A:Like, maybe I don't really have the sex that I love or want to be having, but it's not that bad.
Speaker A:It's fine.
Speaker A:It's not like a priority in my life, and I don't really have time and energy to rock the boat on that.
Speaker A:It just might feel like.
Speaker A:Or maybe it feels like, yes, this is something that I want to work on, but again, like, it's fine.
Speaker A:Or maybe it's actually like, sex is not something that I want, but it's not something that I need.
Speaker A:I've heard that from multiple people.
Speaker A:It's not something that I need.
Speaker A:Like, I can go the rest of my life not really having sex or experiencing pleasure in the way that makes me feel, you know, fulfilled and joyful.
Speaker A:Like, I don't need that.
Speaker A:Who needs that?
Speaker A:It's fine.
Speaker A:I can totally live without it.
Speaker A:I can live in a relationship that is not fulfilling in that way, because if I don't have desire for it, then why would I need it?
Speaker A:And I can live the rest of my life this way.
Speaker A:And I will say to that, absolutely, you can.
Speaker A:You can absolutely live the rest of your life that way.
Speaker A:Is that a healthy mindset or way of living?
Speaker A:I would personally argue no.
Speaker A:Now, there is a caveat to that.
Speaker A:There are people that are asexual and, you know, don't actually have a desire to have sex.
Speaker A:That doesn't mean that pleasure is not a part of their lives.
Speaker A:Pleasure, again, comes in many different forms.
Speaker A:So if sexual pleasure is not necessarily your jam, that's totally fine.
Speaker A:I've also met a lot of women that think that they're asexual because they have low sexual desire and Again, like, I don't ever want to tell somebody that their identity is not their identity, but I always am curious around that.
Speaker A:I always like to ask some more questions around that and understand how they have come to that realization.
Speaker A:Because just because you don't have desire does not mean that you are asexual.
Speaker A:Again, that is like the main thing that I work on is helping women get to a place where they can feel desire again.
Speaker A:So there are many women that for them, again, sex is something that has been a barrier for so long that we have been taught to just kind of write it off as this is fine, it's normal.
Speaker A:It's normal for me as a woman to not like sex.
Speaker A:This is a really like old kind of narrative too around women just don't like sex.
Speaker A:And so it's fine.
Speaker A:And you know, it's fine to just have bad sex or it's fine to not enjoy sex and not get what you want out of sex.
Speaker A:And so we just get to live with it.
Speaker A:But that is not why we're here, right?
Speaker A:That's what I am actively trying to create a community and an awareness around that.
Speaker A:Sex.
Speaker A:Sex and pleasure is important.
Speaker A:Sex and pleasure is how we connect to our bodies, connect to our souls, connect to our divine wisdom, connect to our creation energy.
Speaker A:There are so many benefits that come from being connected to your sexuality and that does not necessarily mean having sex with a partner.
Speaker A:Having sex with a partner is like an extra added bonus where you get to bring two souls, two sacred bodies, sacred vessels together, and co create something incredible which is so just, ooh, yummy.
Speaker A:And again, the reason why I created this container is because I think it's important to step into that space for yourself first before co creating that with someone else.
Speaker A:So being able to take a step into your own pleasure and claim it for yourself can have so many ripple effects on the rest of your life.
Speaker A:It can help you have more confidence, it can help you feel more alive and more aligned in where you're going in life and what you want to do.
Speaker A:You start to be able to magnetize the things to you that you want and to be discerning around what you want and don't want to hold those boundaries that are important to hold.
Speaker A:And like, who doesn't want to have better sex and intimacy either with themselves or with a partner?
Speaker A:Like these things are important.
Speaker A:And to think that you can just like live the rest of your life without it.
Speaker A:Again, of course you can.
Speaker A:Like that is a, a choice that you have.
Speaker A:I do not want to Take that choice away from you.
Speaker A:And I also want to empower you to know that there is a life, there is a path where you get to have.
Speaker A:You know, like my friend Shauna Stewart says that she wanted in her dream of sex and intimacy when she was going through her struggles with her medical stuff that she was going through and she wanted to really work on pleasure for herself, that she wanted to have like a toe curling pleasure in her body when she, you know, had sex with her partner.
Speaker A:And that is accessible, if you want that, that is accessible to have.
Speaker A:And we get to talk about that.
Speaker A:We get to open the box and make it not just, I say this to my clients, not just make sex and intimacy and pleasure a box that we take off the shelf when we want to and explore it and then put it back on the shelf.
Speaker A:It's something that we are embodying every moment of every day.
Speaker A:That doesn't mean that you're like turned on and horny all the time, but it means that you are embodying this sense of vitality and charisma and confidence and like love for yourself and love for life and love for creation.
Speaker A:And there's just an energy that comes with feeling in flow with pleasure and feeling in flow with sexual, in yourself and with a partner.
Speaker A:So if you are somebody that is writing sex off, is saying it's not a big deal or saying it's not for me.
Speaker A:I invite you to explore what it would be like if it was for you.
Speaker A:What would life be like if you could have better sex?
Speaker A:If you could have toe curling orgasm pleasure.
Speaker A:If you could really find that sense of confidence and joy and power and love for yourself and advocate for the things that you want and need and hold those boundaries with the people that you need to in your life, what would that look like?
Speaker A:So I invite you to close your eyes.
Speaker A:And something that I've recently learned from Emily Fletcher in her Ziva Magic course, you can close your eyes and ask yourself, what would I love in this moment, in my safety bubble, in my resourced space, what would I love?
Speaker A:And if the answer to that question is, I would love to have better sex, I would love to.
Speaker A:I would love to actually feel desire for sex and intimacy.
Speaker A:I would love to feel pleasure.
Speaker A:I would love to like, be in my body during a pleasurable experience.
Speaker A:I would love to like, have an orgasm that ripples through my entire body.
Speaker A:I would love to hold boundaries and advocate for the things that I want to need.
Speaker A:If those are the things that you are hearing from your Soul about what you would love, then this course is for you.
Speaker A:So with that recap what this course is, so you get now nine weeks because I'm adding on an extra, an extra like bonus week that you either get an extra integration session.
Speaker A:So then you would have three integration sessions all together.
Speaker A:One in the middle of the course and then two at the end or a some type of like ritual ending of the container.
Speaker A:And that can either be by yourself or if we all collectively decide that you want to do it as a cohort together at the end, then everyone that goes through this container could do it together in a group.
Speaker A:So now you get nine weeks of support from me.
Speaker A:Again, six.
Speaker A:Six of those weeks are going to be like educational based weeks where we're talking about a specific topic and then seeing how does that fit for you in your life?
Speaker A:How can we like personalize that to you?
Speaker A:What does that mean for you?
Speaker A:How have you experienced those things?
Speaker A:What do you feel like you need to work on in that area?
Speaker A:And then, and then again an integration session in the middle of those teaching sessions and an integration or now two integration sessions potentially at the end of those teaching sessions.
Speaker A:So that is, that is the core container.
Speaker A:The VIP upgrade is all of that plus text and voice support from me in between all your sessions.
Speaker A:You have me in your pocket.
Speaker A:You can text or voice note me at any time and I will get back to you within 24 hours.
Speaker A:Probably usually faster than that, but that's just like the timing that I'm giving.
Speaker A:So that's the basics.
Speaker A: -: Speaker A:As of right now, both of those spots are still open.
Speaker A:So if you get the early bird special, it's $500 off.
Speaker A: The VIP package is usually: Speaker A:So go get that discount because that's a really important discount.
Speaker A:If you pay in full, then you also get 15% off the two add ons, which is the ongoing support.
Speaker A:You get an extra month of ongoing support with two sessions in that month or a partner experience container where you get four sessions with your partner in a month.
Speaker A:And we take everything that you've done in the individual container and then apply it to working on your relationship with sex and intimacy with your partner.
Speaker A:So I give you tools on how to start really working on how do we relate to one another in that space and how do we make that a safe and supportive environment for the two of you to really get out of your sexual experiences what you want to get out of it.
Speaker A:So those are 15% off if you buy those along with your coaching container at checkout.
Speaker A:Otherwise they're full price if you want to buy them after your container is over.
Speaker A:And that's totally an option too.
Speaker A:Again, I already told you about the bonuses.
Speaker A:Also if you pay in full then you get a free playlist from me that I've personally curated with sacred feminine music that I think would be really helpful on your journey.
Speaker A:The availability for doing a free 45 minute consultation is still still very much available to you.
Speaker A:They're available now today Wednesday and tomorrow Thursday.
Speaker A:So if you want a free 45 minute consultation, please schedule those ASAP because there's not a lot of time to get those in.
Speaker A:So if you are feeling like you need some extra like one on one support around whether this is the right fit for you, those are a great option for you to talk to me one on one individually, really talk about what you are personally going through and I can talk you through how this container could be supportive for that.
Speaker A:So go book that if that's something that you're wanting.
Speaker A:Otherwise you can book right now.
Speaker A:There are two payment plans available as well.
Speaker A: a four month payment plan of: Speaker A:So those are also your like further discounted options.
Speaker A:If that is something that you need over a period of time, I believe that that is all that I have to share with you.
Speaker A:So again, if this is something that you are feeling like I think this is something that I need in my life, please either go schedule your free consultation to talk to me further or just go book it.
Speaker A:It's here, it's available.
Speaker A:It's only going to be available through the 12th and the early bird discount special is still available.
Speaker A:So go grab that discount before somebody else does.
Speaker A:All right, I will talk to you in the next.
