You Deserve Pleasure — Claiming Your Right to Feel Good
In this episode, I’m diving into one of the most tender and transformative truths of all — that you deserve pleasure. Whether you’ve ever wondered if sex or sensuality is really “for you,” or felt that your role was to give rather than receive, this conversation is for you.
I share how deeply ingrained beliefs about women’s worth, love, and sexuality have shaped our connection to our bodies — and how we can begin to unlearn those patterns. This is about reclaiming your relationship to desire, remembering that your pleasure is sacred, and allowing yourself to receive the nourishment and joy that are your birthright.
I also share details about my one-on-one coaching container, where we move beyond the self-help mindset and into embodied transformation. The Early Bird special closes Saturday (Oct. 11th) at noon Pacific, so if your body is whispering yes, this is your moment to listen.
✨ Early Bird Discount:
You’ll receive $500 off either package when you pay in full. Click Below to Purchase Now!
👉 Core Coaching Package Early Bird Special
👉 VIP Coaching Package Early Bird Special
What’s Included in My 1:1 Coaching Container
There are two ways to work with me during open cart week:
🌸 Core Coaching Package — $2,999
- 8 total sessions over 3 months (6 teaching + 2 integration)
- Deep guided support through sexual healing, embodiment, and pleasure reclamation
- Personalized practices and between-session support tools
- Payment plan: 4 monthly payments of $750
- BONUS: Your choice of either an extra integration session or a personalized closing ritual session to anchor your transformation (either individually or potentially as a group)
🔥 VIP Coaching Package — $4,999
- Everything in the Core Package plus:
- Text and voice note support via Telegram between sessions for continued guidance
- Payment plan: 4 monthly payments of $1,250
- BONUS: Your choice of either an extra integration session, a personalized closing ritual session to anchor your transformation (either individually or potentially as a group), or another week of text + voice support
🌕 Bonuses
✨ Included for All Participants:
- Your choice of either an extra integration session or a personalized closing ritual session to anchor your transformation
- Optional group closing circle if this cohort desires to come together in sacred space at the end
✨ Pay-in-Full Bonuses:
- A personalized sacred feminine playlist, curated by me to help you embody sensuality and self-love in your daily life
- 15% off add-ons at check out, including:
- The Ongoing Support Package (2 sessions per month, $750)
- The Partner Support Container (4 sessions, $1,499)
🌸 Click below to purchase your package! Its your time!
👉 Core Coaching Package Early Bird Special
👉 VIP Coaching Package Early Bird Special
👉 Core Coaching Package 4 Month Payment Plan Option
👉 VIP Coaching Package 4 Month Payment Plan Option
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Transcript
Welcome back to the Connected Pleasure Podcast, my loves.
Speaker A:I'm Kayla, your host.
Speaker A:I go by she, her hers pronouns.
Speaker A:And I'm here again for another episode on now, day five of my open cart week for my one on one coaching program.
Speaker A:So a few announcements.
Speaker A:One is that I am closing the early Bird special on Saturday at noon.
Speaker A:So the early Bird special is going to be closed on Saturday this Saturday the 11th at noon Pacific time.
Speaker A:So if you want to get that early Bird special, now's the time.
Speaker A:You have until Saturday at noon Pacific time to get that discount.
Speaker A:Otherwise it goes back up to the normal prices.
Speaker A:There obviously will still be the four month payment plans on both of the packages, but if you want that $500 off on the pay in full option, then go get that discount for the early bird special.
Speaker A:Okay?
Speaker A:Also, I just wanted to mention if any of you that are following along with this have followed me for a while before I started doing coaching.
Speaker A:I just wanted to make it abundantly clear to you that previously when I was just doing therapy, I could only see people in Washington state.
Speaker A:And now that I am doing coaching, I can see people anywhere in the world, which is so one of the reasons why I wanted to start doing coaching.
Speaker A:I'm not prohibited by my license if I am working as a coach.
Speaker A:So if you are somewhere else in the country or somewhere else in the world, all of these things are for you too.
Speaker A:You do not have to sit on the sidelines because you are not in Washington State where I live.
Speaker A:So let's talk about whether or not you feel like you deserve to spend this time on yourself.
Speaker A:You deserve to feel pleasure whether or not sex is for you.
Speaker A:So I've talked about what it looks like to be deserving in the previous podcasts that I've done, but I or episodes that I've done.
Speaker A:But I wanted to really dive deeper into this idea of like, is sex for me?
Speaker A:And hopefully if you're here you are thinking that it possibly can be.
Speaker A:But again, there are a lot of people that I have worked with where a lot of the focus is on making their partner feel better and making the sexual experience good for their partner and have a lot of anxiety around the focus being on them or like claiming pleasure for themselves.
Speaker A:So something that's important for you to know when it comes to pleasure is that everyone is actually responsible for their own pleasure.
Speaker A:I think this is the one like aspect of a relationship that I talk about.
Speaker A:Selfishness is actually helpful because it's something that we need to be pursuing for ourselves.
Speaker A:Even in the context of a co created experience with a partner or multiple partners, it's important for you to know yourself enough and know what you want enough that you can advocate for what you want, you can ask for the things that you want, you can say what you don't want or what would you want differently?
Speaker A:And if you just leave it up to your partner to know what to do and how to do it, oftentimes you're left feeling not as satisfied as you could feel if you were pursuing the pleasure that you want.
Speaker A:And I see this on all sides.
Speaker A:It's not necessarily just women.
Speaker A:I see this in, you know, most of the partners of the couples and individuals that I see as well.
Speaker A:So being able to claim your pleasure for yourself in a sexual experience is important.
Speaker A:And having the courage and the confidence to do that is also very important.
Speaker A:So if you are feeling like I don't deserve this and sex is not for me, I'm here to tell you that this is your chance to take some time for yourself and really learn and understand what could pleasure mean for me, what could it look like for me to fully embrace myself, embrace my body, embrace my desire and pursue the pleasure that I want.
Speaker A:And that could look like a solo experience or it could look like a partnered experience.
Speaker A:And we have to unlearn and break the mold of what it has meant in our society to especially be a woman and giving pleasure a lot.
Speaker A:Again, a lot of us have been taught that pleasure is for a partner or we are here to provide pleasure in order to get some value in our society.
Speaker A:You know, even I have conflated sex with love in my life.
Speaker A:My parents split when I was young and I think there has always been a hole in my heart until semi recently when I think I was finally able to really like heal some stuff around my father wounds.
Speaker A:But I, you know, had a lot of stuff around whether I was enough, whether I was lovable.
Speaker A:And I, you know, in a lot of my early relationships I felt like if I gave sex or if I had sex with this person that they would fall in love with me.
Speaker A:And that just was not the case.
Speaker A:So I think a lot of women have this feeling that like one, we need to give sex to a partner in order for that partner to be interested and we need to keep giving them sex for them to be interested even after we've been in a long term relationship.
Speaker A:And that if we are having a hard time with our own pleasure, our own desire, our own feeling of like I, I'm not able to like stay, stay in my body and be in my body that it's just not that you are going to not be, you know, a valuable partner anymore.
Speaker A:So I am here to tell you that this program holds you in the best ways.
Speaker A:It gives you the space to really understand what have I been holding myself to in terms of my belief systems and my understanding of sex and pleasure?
Speaker A:And how can I come back to a place of being able to really source divinity and power and love within myself and using that power in divinity and love to pursue pleasure.
Speaker A:That pleasure is there for us to cultivate and to pursue.
Speaker A:And it is yours to take, it is yours to indulge in.
Speaker A:It is yours to be present to.
Speaker A:And there are so many barriers in our society to being able to experience, experience pleasure.
Speaker A:And we get to be the ones to say, no, I do deserve this.
Speaker A:I do deserve to take time and space for myself.
Speaker A:I do deserve to create an experience where I get to lose myself and be an ecstasy.
Speaker A:And I get to create pleasurable moments throughout my life, regardless of whether they are sexual or not.
Speaker A:Like, I get to live in the magic of pleasure.
Speaker A:And through that magic of pleasure and through the healing that you go through, then I get to be a beacon of light for those around me to also do the same.
Speaker A:And together we get to weave pleasure back into this world and really hold the line or hold the vision of what we want the future to look like.
Speaker A:We want the future to be connected.
Speaker A:We want the future to be pleasurable.
Speaker A:We want the future to be full of present moments and not thinking so far ahead and planning or having to rework and revise the past so much.
Speaker A:Like, we get to just be.
Speaker A:So what would it be like to just be.
Speaker A:To just be in the moment and to feel the pleasure of the moment and then to take that into your sexual experiences and be so in the moment and so connected with your partner that that's all there is.
Speaker A:It's just you co creating pleasurable sensations in each other's bodies and getting to experience so many amazing emotions and sensations.
Speaker A:So if that feels like something that's calling to you, I'm here, I'm here for you.
Speaker A:Okay, so today is Friday.
Speaker A:This is the first episode of the day.
Speaker A:So you have somewhere between like 24 and like 36 hours.
Speaker A:Ish of the early bird discount.
Speaker A:So please, please go get that if that is something that you want.
Speaker A:Because doors close on that on Saturday the 11th at noon Pacific time.
Speaker A:Doors close fully for the entire program on Sunday the 12th at midnight.
Speaker A:So Midnight in between Sunday and Monday.
Speaker A:So we're getting down to the nitty gritty and I just want to remind you of that.
Speaker A:So again there are two packages for you.
Speaker A:The core package and the VIP option.
Speaker A:The core package is the eight week container.
Speaker A:There are some bonuses but I'll get to that in a second.
Speaker A:The eight week container with six teaching sessions and two integration sessions.
Speaker A:One in the middle of the teaching sessions and one at the end.
Speaker A:The VIP package is all of that plus voice and text support from me on telegram in between all the sessions.
Speaker A:So you get me in your pocket whenever you need something.
Speaker A:In between those sessions there are bonuses.
Speaker A:So for anyone you get to pick from either a another integration session.
Speaker A:So that would take it to nine weeks.
Speaker A:A ritual type closing ceremony session we could do individually or if I have enough people then we can possibly do it as a group.
Speaker A:And for the VIP package you have the option to add another week of text and voice support.
Speaker A:So everyone has the option of at least two bonuses and then the VIP package has the additional option of another week of support.
Speaker A:There are also some payment plans available.
Speaker A:So there are four month payment plans.
Speaker A: payments of: Speaker A:If you pay in full you get a free sacred playlist from me, Sacred Feminine playlist from me that is personally curated to support you on your journey.
Speaker A:You also get 15% off at checkout on the add ons.
Speaker A:There's the ongoing support add on for 7:50amonth.
Speaker A:That's two sessions a month to just continue the support that you get after the container if that's something that you need.
Speaker A:There is also the partner experience where you get to take everything that you've learned in this container and then start applying it to you and your partner's relationship and working on what is the dynamic that we that you have in your sexual experiences together and how to heal that so that you start having the sexual experiences that you really want with your partner.
Speaker A:And that is a month long container as well with four sessions and that is for 14.99.
Speaker A:So if you buy a package in full then you get those at you can get 15% off of those at checkout.
Speaker A:Consultations are done, they ended on Thursday or yesterday so that's no longer an option.
Speaker A:But if you have questions please feel free to reach out to me again.
Speaker A:My email is Kayla at connectedpleasurecoaching.
Speaker A:Com.
Speaker A:So if you have any questions please feel free to reach out and I would be happy to answer them.
Speaker A:I think that's about all I have to give and to say.
Speaker A:I just, again, I really appreciate anyone that is here and has continuing to listen to all of these episodes that I've been doing.
Speaker A:It's been a labor of love, that's for sure.
Speaker A:And I. I just really look forward to meeting anyone that decides to step forward and move into this container with me.
Speaker A:So with that, I will talk to you in the next one.
